The way it looks, it controls me! This must be stopped immediately. Or?
You often hear that: In addition to sentences like “my dog is dominant” or “my dog is stubborn”, the sentence “my dog wants to control me” is very often used. Or also: “My dog wants to control other dogs”.
The following scene occurs to me:
Yesterday I was in the toilet. My dogs followed me up the stairs. One got on my feet. The other in the toilet door. Hammer! According to the statements of what control is all about, my two full-grown controllers are. The question that comes up to me by the way is: What do they actually control? Do I make big or small? Am I not peeing while standing? Will I wash my hands properly afterwards? Don’t you want me to go to the bathroom? Do you want me to sit in the toilet longer? I have no idea! So I sit there as long as I want and I don’t think bad.
Today I was back in the toilet. However, my two stayed below. Just because. Thank God they are no longer inspectors today. But maybe tomorrow again. Hm…
Control behavior must be prevented on the spot
Everything that is under control among those who are familiar with control is a wide and sometimes very confusing field for those who are not familiar with control:
There are trainers who tell their customers: “Warning! When the dog stands on your feet, he wants to control you “- and, of course, implicitly dominate.
He also wants to control you if he follows you everywhere, hypnotizes you for a few minutes and barks to ask you to give you a chew stick (so he also wants to manipulate you), if he chews another dog, gets himself into it Laying the path, not leaving the door or blocking the way to the kitchen.
The dog wants to control when he constantly scans the area outside, and there are certainly many other situations that I just don’t want to come up with, because I am admittedly not the control expert either.
In specialist circles (everything from 30 years of dog experience) you get advice if the dog controls another dog, but above all humans, that the behavior must be strictly prevented on the spot, because if someone controls someone here, then man the dog! If I have prevented the behavior by a proper “No” or by pressing it down, pushing it away or something similar, then the world of the dog owner is in order again and belongs to him alone. The problem is “under control”. Phew, that was close!
I decide whether I feel controlled
But the questions that may now arise on a person who spins the thread a bit are:
Is the suspicious behavior actually
really a form of control? Does the dog really want to control me or other dogs with his behavior? And if he wants that, what negative effects could this actually have on me or the other dog? And isn’t it actually the case that someone may be trying to control me, but I decide for myself whether I feel controlled at all? So what if the dog controls me but I don’t feel controlled at all?
On the other hand, if the dog doesn’t want to control, what does he want? What function could his behavior have?
And finally, what exactly is control? Everyone seems to have their own ideas …
The definition of control
Wikipedia says: “Control is the surveillance or review of a thing, matter or person and thus a means of rule or violence over someone or something. Another definition of control that is free of domination and violence can be found, for example, in business controlling or in the psychological control of an individual’s life. “
The dog, if he controls me, wants control or authority over me. What does that mean exactly? Will he tell me soon when he will get what and how much soon in the bowl? When do we go for a walk? Where are we going and how long are we going? When should we go to the vet? When can I go to the toilet and when can’t I?
Since dogs rarely work in the business controlling area, I assume that even those who are familiar with control would rule out this variant as a model.
It is obvious that the dog wants to control his own life and is part of the genetic survival program of every living being. Because having control over your life means security. And security is a vital requirement to survive.
What do we actually know?
But the fact is – from a very sober perspective – we don’t KNOW whether the dog wants to control us. As far as I know, science has not yet been able to prove anything relevant in this regard, and the dog cannot tell us – like so many things.
It is also a fact that we often feel controlled based on the observations we make. But other interpretations are just as possible and it could be that the dog follows us everywhere because he does not want to be alone and is afraid, because he is bored because he is looking for our proximity – after all, dogs were also selected for this, close to each other to bind people. Maybe he stands on his feet because the ground is cold, because he has trust, or because it’s fun.